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The Querents Question and background circumstances surrounding the Question:
What can I do to protect myself from negativity?
Background/details concerning your Question:
Finding myself completely avoiding people and situations that make me anxious and stressed. I don’t want to be around any kind of past or future negativity but I know there will be times I can not avoid it. So guidance on how to protect myself and manage it.
Card 1. You should STOP doing this: Five of Cups reversed: You have suffered conflicts and hurtful conditions in your past. Both in family relationship as well as friendships that have taken there toll on you. They had at one time been good and happy relationships that had provided much joy, comfort, companionship and support, but somewhere along the way, these relationships soured and the good feelings spilled out like an over turned glass of wine and the celebration and good times came to an end. Now you struggle to remember the good times and things that you shared and that brought you together in the first place. Since then, you only seem to dwell on the hurt and negativity surrounding these people and those good times turned bad. That is what you need to STOP doing… stop dwelling on the past hurts and ill will that has occurred in these relationships. Some of these relationships are now toxic to you and rather than dwell on what went wrong, in these cases it is perfectly ok to walk away from them and leave them in the past rather than allow them to poison your present and future. In the case of family that has caused pain and hurt in the past and that continues to spill over into the present because of the memories of those hurtful events and times, you may not have the luxury of leaving these people behind. But, you can stop dwelling on what had occurred in the past, forgive and step into the present with a clean slate. Realize that even though they hurt you in the past, there is still love present between you. Focus on that love as you prepare to meet them in the present. Afterall, you can’t change the past and the future hasn’t been created yet. The only place you have power is in the present. So in the here and now, focus on the love that still exists between you and stand in that knowledge now.
Card 2. You should START doing this: Four of Swords: The Four of Swords suggests that it is appropriate to take a break from the battles you have been fighting with these people. Step away from them all for now. Catch your breath, put down your Sword and take refuge. It’s perfectly acceptable and in fact a good idea to just distance yourself from these people for awhile until you can gather your strength and recuperate from the last round of battles that you found yourself engaged in. You need to rest and recuperate and recharge your batteries before you even think of interacting with these people again. If you try and get into it again with these people, you will find you are to weak from the last go-round and you will fall prey to their attacks again. Keep your distance until you are strong enough to forgive, even if you can’t forget. Don’t allow yourself to feel guilty for avoiding them or situations that deplete you. Sometimes it’s best for all to just back away from situations that drain you. There will be time when you feel stronger to try again… if you so choose.
Card 3. What you should CONTINUE to do: Ten of Pentacles reversed: This is a card that indicates family. Family get togethers, things concerning family money, belongings, inheritances and legacies. Perhaps the bad feelings or arguments are about things concerning the fore mentioned family possessions or when you get together with family. Do you seem to keep arguing about the same old things each time you get together and you feel as if you are being attacked and belittled? Do family members get to squabbling amongst themselves and you just want to disappear and you wish you hadn’t gone in the first place? Reversed, this card suggests that it may be best if you continue to stay away from these family gathers for awhile longer. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder. So if you stay away long enough, they will miss you and be more apt to behave themselves or risk you disappearing again. Sometimes it is better to stay away and don’t reward them for their bad behavior. It is certainly best for you to avoid these depleting encounters. So for the time being, give yourself permission to stay away, either until you feel strong enough to withstand the battleground, or until they can behave themselves.
SUMMARY: You need to stop dwelling on the painful past relationships that went sour. It’s ok to walk away from relationships that no longer serve you. Remember the good times, forgive the bad so that you may find peace within yourself and then wish them well in their future and walk away. In the relationships that you can’t just walk away from, remember that even though there are battles in the past and may be in the future, there is also love. That love has always been there and always will be. It’s ok to take a break from situations that deplete you. In fact, it’s time that you did. You have taken all you can stand at this time and what you need now is a reprieve from it all. You need to take some time to rest and recuperate from all the previous battles. It’s ok to say, “enough already!” Stop feeling guilty for needing a break… it’s ok. Take that much needed break and recharge your battery. It’s ok to remove yourself from a war you never wanted to be in. In family matters, it’s best to continue to stay away until the cost is clear. You can still love them while not rewarding them for their bad behavior. Once they get the message that unless they can be civil, you won’t be around… they will come around to their sense. The best thing you can do to cut through all that negative energy, is to stop putting yourself smack in the middle of it. Stay away until the coast is clear. Give yourself permission to do this. It’s the guilt that’s eating away at you and leaving all that residual negativity.
Side Note: One other thing you can do is get a pendent/necklace or pouch with Black Tourmaline or Selenite and clear Quartz crystal for warding away and clearing negative energy and carry it with you in your pocket or wear it. Once it feels like it’s ‘not working anymore’, cleanse it by laying it over night in salt. Selenite doesn’t do well in water, and it is a self cleanser anyway, but the other stones especially the Black Tourmaline will need cleansing regularly. You can then recharge them by placing them with a clear Quartz Crystal and stating the intent that you wish them to protect you from negative energy, then you are all set to use them again.
I hope you all have enjoyed this reading and maybe it has resonated with some of you out there too, not just our lucky winner!
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In Love & Light, Purple Swan* (AKA Kristy)
